Real men don’t talk tough on the internet.

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To my knowledge, my mother is not a man. But she’s a very strong woman.

My grandfathers were both World War II fighter pilots. My dad was a special forces soldier.

The phrases “be a man” and “toughen up” were introduced at an early age. My desire for validation, my need to adapt, were all viewed through a very male prism.

This approach brought a few obvious challenges. But what good, positive laws of living can be drawn from masculinity?

Most of these will apply to women as well.

I. Harness the power of mediocrity

The Naval Academy is quite competitive and for good reason. It’s prestigious. There’s no tuition. You’ll receive an excellent education and spending money. But you’ll be required to serve five years in the military after graduation. …


A hypothetical scenario on a day in the life of a humble writer.

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Questions are a big part of my writing strategy. I often use them to build out longer pieces.

So let’s play a game. In a hypothetical scenario, let’s say you woke up as me. What would your day be like?

You’d wake up in a bit of a haze. You aren’t much of a morning person. So the room would look a little blurry at first.

You’ll need to pee. If you’ve never stood while peeing, just sit down. It’s harder than it looks, no pun intended, and I can’t teach you in one go around.

You’ll need to brush your teeth, please. I hate bad breath and refuse to be part of the problem. …

My visit revealed a few surprises and a few non-surprises about the most famous social media company in the world.

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Me standing on the roof at Facebook HQ.

Renting a car was my first mistake.

I’d never been to San Francisco and figured the rental would give me freedom. It only made things more stressful. The Golden City’s traffic is not to be underestimated.

I’d arrived from Tampa, Florida. The local culture couldn’t have been more different. But it was a good different. There were murals of art throughout the city. People wore less traditional clothing. It was more diverse. And people had an unapologetic flair of individuality that I appreciated.

I was visiting my friend Dan and his husband Rick. Dan works as a tech recruiter for Facebook. He is a rags-to-riches story if there ever was one. He is a former Target employee whose been through a lot in life. But he dug himself out of nothing, worked his way up the recruiting ranks, before jumping into this hotshot role. …


Sean Kernan

Quality over quantity. That guy from Quora. Enjoy? Follow for more. https://seanjkernan.substack.com/

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