One Brutal Unseen Truth About Relationships
This does happen.
You and your wife are enjoying a camping getaway in the mountains. The long weekend has included some of the best days of your entire marriage.
It is your 5 year anniversary and it is one well-celebrated. Many said marriage would be difficult. And while there were certainly moments, overall, it has been the best 5 years of your life.
You had a picnic by the glassy lake. You grilled chicken and talked about all the things you wanted to accomplish together. You bounced around a few ideas for kid’s names. You discussed remodeling the house.
You laughed and enjoyed conversation in a way that two young lovers might.
Now, you’ve decided to go take the canoe out on the water. You both walk down the dock. You hold her hand as she steps into the canoe while using your foot to stabilize it.
You climb in after her and tease that this is how every 80’s scary movie starts.
You pick up a paddle and begin gliding out across the still mountain lake.
It is quiet and cool. The breeze is soft. You stop out near the middle of the lake. You both lean back, facing each other. The sound of the canoe sloshes quietly in the pristine water.
There are mountains to the north with snow-capped peaks. Around the lake, a wall of green pines rises high above the ground.
And, in front of you, is your beautiful wife.
You admire her dark flowing hair, her magnetic green eyes, the sun reflecting up and at her from the water. You wonder how you could be so lucky. It doesn’t even seem fair.
She catches you staring at her.
“What?” she says, with a grin.
You say, “I love you.”
She’s cheating on you.
It’s bad — worse than you would imagine.
It started 2 years ago with a coworker. Every two months or so, he comes over while you’re working or on weekends while you’re traveling.
When he isn’t there, they text periodically, occasionally talking on the phone.
When they are at your house, they are in your bed, having sex. Her back is arched. Her eyes are closed. She is moaning and screaming his name.
Some days, you’ll come home and be intimate with her only hours after the fact.
The affair will continue for years. Eventually, things will become more complicated. Feelings will develop. Emotions will run. They will say, “I love you”, in hushed tones.
After she has your children, she will realize the affair can’t go on anymore. She will end it. Then, a few years later, it will start again. And then, finally, he will end it once and for all.
She is cheating on you.
She will continue cheating on you.
And you, and many spouses like you, will never know.
She smiles back,
“I love you too.”