Thanks for your comment. You threw a lot at me here but I just wanted to respond to this.

Men absolutely consider the woman, many of them at least.

I've been in situations where I was clearly given "signals" but I chose not to cheat because I didn't want to risk losing my partner. It also just seemed like a lot of emotional baggage to be carrying around in my closet.

Men cheat but they often know the risk they are taking. They take a calculated risk and they sometimes get their ass handed to them.

And yes, I agree. The best cheaters are great liars and we probably never hear about them.

Anyways, yes, I apprecaite your thoughts. This article has churned up a lot of feelings in people. It's a very personal and common painful experience we have.