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The Journey Through a Borderline Personality Disorder Relationship
Why we need to stop calling it the “crazy girlfriend” condition.
I’ve grown to resent the word “crazy” because of what I went through with a partner who suffered from borderline personality disorder. The disorder is fairly misunderstood by the public, and the label “crazy” is unfairly slapped on people (women especially) and with little empathy. This is our story, and why we should let go of this stigma, not just because of what it does to victims, but because of how it warps our own thinking.
The innocent beginnings
We met at a party under fairly innocuous circumstances. I immediately recognized Jen was pretty, with a soft oval face, brown hair and pretty eyes, but I wasn’t on the hunt to meet someone that night. By chance, we paired up during a game of beer pong and were surely an odd pairing, her being 4’10 and me standing nearly a foot and a half taller.
We both laughed a ton through the night and were in sync with our energy and conversation. On a whim, I asked for her phone number and we met for coffee two days later. From there, it was on: we couldn’t get enough of each other. It’s a shame because, as I look back now, it started out…
